Let me tell
you my belief about the triune nature of love (from my book on love). There are
perhaps three elements to successful romantic love; passion, depth and
security. Passion is the fervour that characterises the emotional energy behind
love, and this is often stirred early on, and should continue to intensify in a
healthy union with God at the heart. Depth is that adventure of intimacy,
closeness and understanding that augments over time, and continues to bring
beloveds towards an ever more intimate connection - with each other, and with
God. And security is to passion and depth as wisdom is to knowledge and reason
– it is the trust and confidence in the union that has been established over
time, creating something so well rooted in God that beloveds are, as the Lord
says, inseparable (Matthew 19:6), perhaps like a large oak tree is inseparable
from its roots as a live organism.
Passion can arrive quickly between two beloveds, but depth and security take time. Passion might be thought of as the desire for the beloved in totality, and the establishment of a commitment to each other. Beloveds’ personalities become intimately connected, and this starts to deepen further, where each becomes the central part of the other’s priorities under God, establishing a secure union under God’s providence and blessing.
