The widespread human
aversion to correction is one of the most peculiar of all peculiarities. People
don't like being shown to be wrong - so much so that they'd rather intransigently
yoke themselves to a comfortable falsehood than open themselves up to a
refreshing new fact or an illuminating experience of improved reasoning. There
are multiple causes of this, with some degree of overlap - the usual offenders
are:
1) Lazy-thinking - the
path of least resistance is, by definition, the easiest method of approach. It
takes time and effort to acquire knowledge and develop your reasoning skills,
and relatively few people bother to do this with any aplomb.
2) Status and ego - some
people find it hard to admit they're wrong, so would rather stubbornly close
themselves off from revising their erroneous opinions.
3) Tribal identity - many
views and beliefs are bound up in the identity of a particular group or
allegiance, particularly religious and political views, which overwhelmingly
bias individuals against changes of mind.
4) Emotional biases and
confirmation biases - reasoning ability can be impaired by emotions, and
conformation bias occurs as we look to justify our views by seeking out
information that supports what we already believe.
There are others too, but
those are the main four, and between them they have quite a stultifying effect
on human beings' ability to be correct about things. The only cure for this
sort of thing is to wake yourself up to how painstakingly, ludicrously
irrational this is - I mean, why *wouldn't* you want to be correct about as
much as you can be? And related to that, why *wouldn't* you want to be shown an
improved way of thinking about a situation or learn a new fact?
Learning new facts and improving your reasoning is the universe's way of making you smarter - it is one of the things that people should embrace most, yet it is so often one of the things from which people casually shy away.
Learning new facts and improving your reasoning is the universe's way of making you smarter - it is one of the things that people should embrace most, yet it is so often one of the things from which people casually shy away.
Here's what I'd advise you
to try: from now on, the next time you get even the faintest hint that you're
wrong abut something, or that your interlocutor appears to be making a point
that could bring about a fresh perspective for you, embrace it - be enthralled
by it, and look at it as an invitation to open a door you'd previously only
known to be closed.
You see, when we want to
be, I think we humans are fairly adept at sensing weaknesses in our own
position when up against smarter people. I don't think the feelings and sensations
are alien. As an experiment of self-discovery, let me encourage you to try to
own those feelings when they arrive. The next time you sense you've been
holding on to a view or belief that needs correcting or revising, stop and take
ownership of how it makes you feel.
You may feel threatened,
or embarrassed, or obstinate, or defensive, or angry with yourself, or even
ashamed that if you change your mind you're going to upset people close to you.
I promise you, you will feel at least one of those things. But don't worry -
it's the universe's way of inviting you to be smarter, and encouraging you to
embrace and be glad of the opportunity.
And if that doesn't turn
out to be enough to help you engage in the opportunity, remind yourself that
what the universe is asking you to do is nothing different to what you've
already being doing all your life - enjoying new discoveries and welcoming
fresh perspectives. You don't mind being right on whether it's okay to drop
litter, or on what the hottest planet in our solar system is, or on the
properties of plutonium, or on whether theft should be illegal - you're just
being asked to follow what you've started to its logical conclusion and remain
consistent with it at every juncture.
Every time you become a
better thinker, or less wrong about something, or more rational, you've made
gains for life - you've taken another step on the journey of mental
exhilaration. Don't fight it: thirst for it, enjoy it, and embrace it with open
arms.