Friday, 7 March 2025

Let's Be Honest: Charles Manson is Shallow and Dull

 

“How monotonously alike all the great tyrants and conquerors have been; how gloriously different are the saints.”
C.S. Lewis

That insightful observation from C.S. Lewis came to my mind about halfway through watching Chaos: The Manson Murders on Netflix. I’ve also seen several of Manson’s prison interviews on YouTube, and thought the same thing each time – behind the curtain of his dreadful legacy, as an individual, this guy wreaks of monotony.  Manson’s name is synonymous with manipulation, violence, and the horrifying murders carried out by his so-called "family” of easily brainwashed cult members. Yet, despite the seemingly endless fascination with Manson, especially in the media and pop culture, there's a striking truth when you actually listen to him speak. Despite his bombastic delivery, and obvious twisted narcissism and absurd self-delusions, he is almost entirely devoid of anything remotely smart, insightful or interesting to say (as are, unsurprisingly, the individuals who made up his cult). 

I’m saying this about Manson because it’s generally a good insight about similar figures like him. Behind the mask, we find a very insipid character, whose power wasn’t derived from any remarkable intelligence or charm, but from a carefully cultivated aura of mystery and control over very pliable followers. His speech is often disjointed, filled with rambling, incoherent phrases that sound more like a string of non sequiturs than any profound wisdom. Any philosophies or insights he claims to have are really a sad and pathetic mix of paranoid delusions, racial conspiracies, and half-baked ideas about societal upheaval.

Sure, we are talking about one of the most notorious events in 20th Century America. But absurdly, very interesting events like this do not mean that Manson himself is a very interesting person with interesting things to say. When stripped of the myth and spectacle, he was little more than a manipulative man who used fear, confusion, and his faux-charisma to exploit vulnerable individuals. Behind all that, his nature is that of a dull, self-absorbed man whose ideas were far from revolutionary, and his supposed “charisma” was more about creating an illusion that is only likely to be persuasive to disillusioned, insecure, easily manipulated young people who are even less interesting than Manson.

When you watch Manson carefully, and look closely at his demeanour and facial expressions during interviews, you are observing a man who, in my view, knows full well how unenlightened he is, especially when he’s in the presence of smart, competent interviews. This is a man who knows his own façade – painfully aware that he is not a visionary leader.

In the end, the real irony is that truly bad people - the ones who inspire fear, revulsion, or even fascination - are often the most mundane. Their evil isn’t the result of genius or depth, but of repetition, pettiness, and an inability to create anything of real value, relying on deception rather than originality. Meanwhile, good people - those who create, inspire, and uplift - are usually the ones who live the most interesting lives and have the most interesting things to say. They challenge the world, push boundaries in meaningful ways, and leave behind legacies that enrich rather than destroy. On this, just as on most things, C.S. Lewis was right; the most profound stories don’t belong to the tyrants and the ignoble manipulators; they belong to those who found the courage to be good – those who dared to build instead of tear down.

Thursday, 6 March 2025

Don't Forget To Love Yourself

Christ’s Golden Rule is “In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." (Matthew 7:12)

It’s true that we should treat others as well as we wish to be treated, but this taps into an even more profound truth. If we should treat others as well as we wish to be treated, then we should treat ourselves as well as we should wish others treat us – and further, we should treat ourselves and others with the standard we would hope reflects God’s standard of perfect love. And the same applies to the other great commandment, “Love your neighbour as yourself.” (Mark 12:31) – we must also love ourselves as we love our neighbour, otherwise we might not treat ourselves as well as we need or deserve.

And all that is bootstrapped with the primary instruction: “Love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength” (Mark 12:30). This commandment comes first because our love for God is the foundation of everything else. If we do not love God fully, our love for ourselves and others becomes misaligned. Loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength means we get to see ourselves as He sees us - as infinitely valuable, worthy of love, and made in His image. And this enables us to treat others and ourselves with the same grace, patience, and kindness that God extends to us – because we sense a shared unity in understanding how infinitely loved and valuable we all are.

The reason Christ says about love God and love neighbour that “All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” is because we can’t truly live if we don’t love God, and nor can we love ourselves if we don’t love Him first. And if we can’t love ourselves properly, we can’t love others properly either. This is the only Divine equation that fulfils the design of love: 

❤️ Love God > Love Yourself > Love Others ❤️

By loving God first, we receive the true measure of love - one that is holy, pure, and self-giving. That love then teaches us how to love ourselves in a healthy, godly way. And from that place of wholeness, we can truly love others as ourselves - reflecting God’s Divine love in our relationships.

 

Wednesday, 5 March 2025

Owning Our Preferences

 

One of the big factors behind social, political and domestic division is the habitual mistake of confusing correct policy with preferences – that is, people are constantly asserting something as being the right way things should be done when all they are really revealing is a personal preference. For example, environmentalists declare moral outrage when green space is proposed as a good site for a road or industrial estate; socialists declare injustice when a favoured domestic business is not protected from foreign competition, northerners cry outrage at lack of investment in their regions compared with the south, that sort of thing. But while these propositions do involve value judgements, they are not implicitly moral considerations, they merely convey preferences about how money and resources are allocated.

Consequently, one of the best pieces of wisdom we can learn is to be alert to when we are dealing with preferences and not axiomatic truths, empirical facts or moral propositions. In formal economic terms, a preference is the order that an individual gives to two or more options based on their relative utility. With two considerations, x and y, it will be the case that x is preferred to y, or y is preferred to x, or x and y are preferred equally (this can be measured using an indifference curve, which is a line on a graph showing all the combinations of two goods that give an individual equal utility ). X and y can relate to pretty much anything it is possible to prefer over something else (pieces of fruit, places to go on holiday, online or in-person banking, you name it) – and those preferences are dynamical too (they can change according to context).

Understanding this, and mindfulness of straying from its wisdom, are important home truths that can help bless a marriage too, because if a couple doesn't understand or acknowledge when their views are really preferences, there can be contention that doesn't get negotiated properly.

Monday, 3 March 2025

On Trying To Master Love

To master anything - a musical instrument, a sport, running a business, etc - we're going to require a lot of essential qualities: learning, commitment, devotion to the task, resilience, patience, humility and passion. It must be a continuous effort and a journey of growth. We need to be disciplined in staying present and deeply engaged with the task, we need the ability to immerse ourselves in the activity, and the discernment to understand that progress is gradual and requires enduring setbacks or periods of slow improvement as part of the journey toward mastery.

Trying to master love and being the best beloved are no different – they both take all of those things, but they require understanding something else too. Just as we don't become happy by trying to be happy, or original by trying to be original, we don't master love by trying to master love. You know that what causes happiness is not trying to be happy, it is through cultivating a particular mindset, attitude, and way of being. Happiness should not be pursued as a destination, but as a by-product of seeking truth and goodness. When chased directly, it remains elusive, like someone who seeks wealth for its own sake never truly enjoys its value. True happiness emerges through noble pursuits like kindness, courage, and personal responsibility, not as an end in itself.

Similarly, the journey to mastering love (and being the best beloved) is not an attempt to try to master love, it is the attempt to master the qualities that prioritise, nurture and sustain love - such as truthfulness, trust, self-awareness, honesty, patience, empathy, generosity, kindness, vulnerability and respect. Like any art or discipline, love is a by-product of living with Divine intention, cultivating virtues that support its growth. We don't master love by trying to master it, but by fostering the qualities that enable love to grow and thrive. Love flourishes when we focus not on the intrinsic mastery, but on the process of becoming the kind of person capable of being a continual blessing for your beloved.

 

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